i’ve been thinking about women, transition, and the infantilization of women. i feel that i often hear trans men talk about being women or little girls previous to transitioning - girls who grow up to be men. similar phrasing, ‘boys or men who grow up to be women’ by contrast, often sets trans women on edge. i don’t have data on this, just personal observation.
lately, i’ve been wondering about the way that our culture infantilizes women and formulates men as adults - full and actualized humans. i wonder if the relative comfort some trans men display with language like ‘manning up’ or talking about their ‘female history’ relates to this infantilization. transition for trans guys doesn’t explicitly challenge the notion that manhood a is full and actualized adulthood while womanhood is a prolonged state of childhood or innocence. in contrast, transition for trans women would violate this narrative by moving us into a full, developed self as a woman having previously (for some of us) held some outward form of manhood (although i can’t stress how laughable i find it to think about any previous ‘manhood’ or masculinity i was compelled to express).
its not that i am blaming trans men for infantilization of women, but i’m curious about how this idea about women interacts with the way that cis people and cisnormative society responds to our transitions and thus what language we find ourselves bristling at or not.
Something interesting is how sexualisation interacts with infantilisation of trans women. I know that infantilisation/sexualisation are associated even for cis women, but for trans women it seems like it goes into overdrive.
I mean, I’ve sat in a gender clinic and heard cis nurses use hyper sexualised baby talk (literally dirty baby talk) towards grown women - sometimes older than them - when asking a woman to come to an appointment or treatment.
It’s all part of a “sense of humour, put them at their ease” strategy but that doesn’t stop it from being hideously misplaced, transmisogynist and damn uncomfortable for everybody around even if that is that particular trans woman’s least-un-preferred mode of interaction with staff (and given how much I’ve smiled and nodded while being treated like shit, that’s basically impossible to ever tell).
It isn’t just disrespect. It is violence.
Don’t be violent.
Don’t be a dick.
As many as 15 percent of freshmen at America’s top schools are white students who failed to meet their university’s minimum standards for admission, according to Peter Schmidt, deputy editor of the Chronicle of Higher Education. These kids are “people with a long-standing relationship with the university,” or in other words, the children of faculty, wealthy alumni and politicians.
According to Schmidt, these unqualified but privileged kids are nearly twice as common on top campuses as Black and Latino students who had benefited from affirmative action.
This is EXTREMELY blatant on college campuses. The fact that these things need to be clarified is sad.
Legacy is the real affirmative action…and yet we don’t see certain types of entitled people suing to dismantle that.
The House in the Island of Elliðaey, Iceland
How awesome is this.
Oh no, someone found my house.
this is important and more people need to understand this
Cooled Conservatories, Gardens by the Bay wins 2013 RIBA Lubetkin Prize by Wilkinson Eyre
Wilkinson Eyre’s Cooled Conservatories, Gardens by the Bay has scooped an International Architecture Award for 2013.
The Chicago Athenaeum’s International Architecture Awards aims to honour the best new buildings and landscape and planning projects designed around the world by the most important architects, landscape architects and urban planners practicing nationally and internationally.
As promised, here are some pictures of Lyalya’s first walk outside! Look at the bushy little squirrel tail :D the sandpit was her favorite spot! She was extremely excited and threw sand all over the place
Gemma Arterton during the filming of “Gemma Bovery” directed by Anne Fontaine and based on the 1999 graphic novel by Posy Simmonds of the same name